If you want to feel like a failure this same time next year (and who doesn’t want to feel like a failure?) then try to live your life based on the suggestions and practices of a “type A” person. Unless you’re a “type A” person of course.
This doesn’t mean “type A” is bad, or giving bad advice, it just means they are telling you what works for them – the “type A”. But what works for a “type A” doesn’t usually work for the rest of us – and it’s not supposed to.
Specifically where the “A’s” need to step off a bit is in the area of goal setting. They LOVE goal setting. In fact, one of the main characteristics of the “type A” is that they are goal driven – so obviously they set goals, and are convinced the rest of us need to set goals as well.
But I hate setting goals. I’m not goal driven. I’m relationally driven. Meaning, I don’t really care where I’m going just as long as I like who I’m going with. And deciding in November or December or January how many people I’m going to be friends with or how many hilarious jokes I’m going to tell at a predetermined amount of parties sounds horribly boring to me.
You might argue that I really do have goals, and that if I don’t write them down and give them deadlines, then I’ll be in the same place next year that I’m in today. (What’s wrong with that?) And the only way to really measure if I’m growing in life is to have a “score card” to measure progress by. They tell you that if you’re really going to be successful and happy and brilliant and rich and strong then you have to create “S.M.A.R.T.” goals – which stands for.. I think….
- Real Cool
- Territorial or something like that.
Sounds fine. But I’m rebelling this coming year. I refuse to make SMART goals. Instead, I’m going to try setting DUMB goals. Yeah, you heard that right. You can join me in my little revolution if you want. It’s real simple. Think about what you’re doing today and what you hope you’ll be doing a year from now. Then, write down 5 DUMB goals by making sure they are:
Here’s some examples:
Delicious: This coming year I’m going to eat lots of tacos – I really like tacos.
Underwhelming: This coming year I’m going to hug my wife a lot – she likes hugs.
Murky: This coming year I have no idea what’s going to happen – scary.
Brilliant: This coming year I’m going to amaze someone with my awesome wit – yeah baby!
I think life will be much more fun and mysterious that way.